Feelings....

Feelings are strongest when our attachment is strongest.
The more we care, the more we feel.

If you can feel joy for someone when there isn't attachment, that is pure joy.

Attachment enhances the way we feel about things. How strongly we feel.
If we care and love someone, and when that person did something that isn't so right to you, you get disappointed. For example, if your lover forgot your birthday etc.
But on the other hand, if you have no attachment, you will have lower expectations as your feelings for someone decreases. It's the same why we don't expect strangers to remember our birthdays.

and if life gives you great things out of your expectations, you experience happiness. :)

There are many paths to happiness, but one easy path that we know of is to lower your expectations.

When you get mad or disappointed, most of the time it's because things go out of your expectations.

As mentioned before, the expectations you have for someone or something branch from attachment to people, the level of trust you have etc.
So next time when you get mad, think about whether it's worth it to get that mad, is it wise of you to expect that kind of reaction from that particular person, and gain unattachment to that particular reaction. :) You can still love that person as he/she is, just expect less, because you love him/her, you are willing to take a step back, and really expect nothing from him / her.

Life will be so much beautiful if it's like that. :D

On the contrary, if people are mad at you, it must mean that you really mean a lot to them, if not, they expect you to be better than what you are. So instead of being mad at them, show it to them that you indeed are better, and their anger is very inappropriate.

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They say that the level of happiness you have in the future is directly proportional to the level of hardwork you have now. But then extreme hardwork takes away your happiness.
So the most optimum way is to have a balance. It's not easy to achieve.

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Once again, I might have cyclothermia. But then again, maybe I have hypochondriac. Instead of diagnosing myself casually, might as well i just accept my personality of being emotionally attached to the world.
And now my one mission is to be more emotionally stable.

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Andrew matthews told me to only say positive statements, and don't mention any negative statements. Instead of saying dont wan something, say the thing you want instead. (buy making this statement, i m once again contradicting myself)

Read Follow my heart, making friends and being happy if you are curious. He is a great author. and i m greatly inspired. :D life changing books. :D


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i m blessed. just keep believeing. :D